...women over 50 enjoying sex...breaking the taboo...part 3

A favorite funny quote from one of my favorite funny ladies! 

"I blame my mother for my poor sex life. All she told me was 'the man goes on top and the woman underneath.' For three years my husband and I slept in bunk beds." 

~Joan Rivers~

Celebrating Sexuality: Why Women Over 50 Should Embrace Pleasure and Orgasms

For far too long, society has perpetuated the idea that sexuality fades with age, especially for women. But let’s set the record straight: Sexuality doesn’t have an expiration date. Women over 50 can (and should!) experience vibrant, fulfilling sex lives—and yes, that includes having orgasms. In fact, embracing pleasure at this stage of life is not only possible but incredibly empowering.

At 520Aftermath, we believe in breaking taboos, embracing holistic wellness, and celebrating life at every stage. So, let’s dive into why prioritizing intimacy and pleasure after 50 is one of the best gifts you can give yourself.

The Benefits of Sexuality Over 50

1. Physical Health Benefits

A healthy sex life contributes to overall physical well-being. Orgasms release endorphins, the body's natural painkillers, which can help alleviate aches, improve sleep, and even boost your immune system. Regular intimacy has also been shown to:

Improve cardiovascular health by increasing blood circulation.

Balance hormone levels, which can help manage menopause symptoms like hot flashes or mood swings.

Strengthen pelvic floor muscles, reducing the risk of incontinence.

2. Mental and Emotional Well-Being

Sexuality is about more than just physical pleasure—it’s about feeling alive. Intimacy releases oxytocin, the “bonding hormone,” which reduces stress, strengthens emotional connections, and enhances mental health. Women who embrace their sexuality often experience:

Reduced anxiety and depression.

Enhanced self-confidence and body image.

A renewed sense of vitality and joy.

Breaking Myths and Taboos

Let’s address the elephant in the room: societal myths about older women and sex. The media often portrays aging women as uninterested or incapable of enjoying intimacy, but nothing could be further from the truth.

Myth: Women lose their sex drive after menopause.

Reality: Hormonal changes may shift libido, but this is an opportunity to explore new ways to experience pleasure.

Myth: It’s embarrassing to discuss sex at this age.

Reality: Talking openly about your needs is liberating and builds stronger relationships.

By shattering these stereotypes, women over 50 can reclaim their sexual agency and rewrite the narrative around aging and intimacy.

Exploring Pleasure Holistically

A fulfilling sex life isn’t just about physical connection; it’s also about nurturing your body, mind, and soul. Here are some holistic approaches to enhancing intimacy:

Herbal Remedies: Natural supplements like maca root, ashwagandha, and ginseng can boost energy, reduce stress, and support libido.

Cannabis: Many women are turning to cannabis for relaxation and heightened sensations. Topical products like oils or balms can enhance intimacy, while edibles or tinctures promote relaxation and mindfulness.

Mindfulness Practices: Yoga, meditation, and breathing exercises can help you connect with your body and increase sensual awareness.

Tips for Enhancing Sexual Wellness

If you’re ready to embrace your sexuality at this stage of life, here are some practical steps:

1. Prioritize Self-Care: A healthy lifestyle, including regular exercise, a balanced diet, and stress management, lays the foundation for sexual wellness.

2. Rediscover Self-Exploration: Take time to understand what feels good for you. Explore new experiences, sensations, or tools, such as toys or sensual rituals.

3. Open Conversations: Communication is key to intimacy. Talk openly with your partner about your needs, desires, and boundaries.

4. Try Something New: Whether it’s lingerie, role-playing, or experimenting with different environments, keeping things fresh can reignite passion.

. Whether you’re single, in a long-term relationship, or exploring new connections, embracing your sexuality over 50 is about empowerment, self-love, and joy.

At 520Aftermath and Reba's Tomorrow, we celebrate the natural, holistic journey to wellness—including the deeply personal journey of intimacy. 

It’s never too late to experience pleasure, prioritize your needs, and enjoy all the benefits that come with it.

So, let go of the taboos, celebrate your desires, and remember: your sexuality is yours to embrace, unapologetically.

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...embracing hope in the wake of regret...

An awesome quote for the New Year! 

"Each year's regrets are enveloped in which messages of hope are found for the New Year."

~John R. Dallas Jr.~

Embracing Hope in the Wake of Regret

As the New Year approaches, many of us find ourselves reflecting on the past—the triumphs, the challenges, and yes, even the regrets. Regret is a powerful teacher, often leaving us with a lingering sense of what could have been. But within those feelings lies a profound opportunity to grow, learn, and embrace the messages of hope that come with a new beginning.

John R. Dallas Jr. beautifully captures this sentiment: “Each year’s regrets are enveloped in which messages of hope are found for the New Year.” This quote reminds us that regret doesn’t have to be a weight we carry forward. Instead, it can become a steppingstone toward a brighter future.

Regret teaches us valuable lessons. Perhaps it shows us areas where we can improve or relationships we need to mend. It might highlight dreams we’ve set aside or remind us to cherish the small, everyday moments. While regret can feel heavy, it’s important to remember that it also plants seed of hope, offering a clear view of what truly matters and what we want to change.

As we transition into the New Year, let’s shift our perspective. Here are a few ways to transform regret into hope:

1. Reflect Without Judgement:

Take time to acknowledge your regrets without beating yourself up. Understand the lessons they offer and how they’ve shaped your journey.

2. Set Meaningful Intentions:

Use the wisdom gained from your reflections to set realistic, heartfelt intentions for the year ahead. Focus on growth rather than perfection.

3. Embrace Gratitude:

While regrets can cloud our vision, gratitude clears the path. Reflect on the blessings and achievements of the past year, no matter how small.

4. Take Action:

Hope becomes powerful when paired with action. Whether it’s rekindling a friendship, pursuing a passion, or committing to better self-care, take tangible steps toward your goals.

5. Celebrate Progress:

Acknowledge each step forward, no matter how incremental. Progress is proof that you’re moving in the right direction.

The New Year is not just a calendar change; it’s an opportunity to reimagine our lives, to shed the weight of yesterday’s regrets, and to embrace the hope and potential of tomorrow. As we stand on the threshold of a new chapter, let’s carry the wisdom of the past while stepping forward with faith, optimism, and determination.

May this New Year bring you clarity, strength, and endless hope. After all, within every regret lies a message—a whisper of the life we’re capable of creating. Let’s listen closely and move boldly into the future.

Health tip for the New Year:

 Focus on small, consistent habits like staying hydrated, moving daily, eating whole foods, getting quality sleep, and practicing gratitude. Consistency beats perfection, start small and build momentum!

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...a lesson in forgiveness...

A favorite quote about forgiveness:

"Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future."
~Paul Boese~

 Finding Grace in a Frustrating Moment

This Christmas, we had an experience that caught us off guard and tested our faith and hearts. A Christmas card that was sent to us, originally containing a Texas Roadhouse gift card and money, arrived empty. It had been opened and resealed before we got it. Naturally, our first reaction was anger, and in the heat of the moment, we said things we shouldn’t have...like hoping the person who stole it would face horrible consequences.

But as we reflected, we realized something important: forgiveness matters more than our frustration. We don’t know the circumstances of the person who took it, but we do know this...G-d calls us to forgive, just as HE forgives us. Maybe they needed it more than we did, and even if they didn’t, grace is always the better path.

The moral of the story? When life challenges you, don’t let anger take root. Take a breath, lean on faith, and choose love over bitterness. We’re grateful for this reminder to let go and let G-d!

Wishing you all peace, happiness and forgiveness.

It's vital to take care of ourselves, here's a little health tip for you:

Start your morning with a glass of warm water mixed with freshly squeezed lemon juice. This simple drink can help kickstart your digestion, hydrate your body, and provide a boost of vitamin C to support your immune system!

From our little family to yours, we wish you an exciting New Year filled with tons of happiness, fun, blessings, health and love! 

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A Little Christmas, A Little Romance: Cozy Up for the Holidays

A beautiful quote for this magical time of year!

"Christmas waves a magic wand over this world, and behold, everything is softer and more beautiful." 

~ Norman Vincent Peale ~

The holiday season isn’t just about gifts and decorations—it’s the perfect time to add a little extra romance to your life. Whether you’re spending the season with your long-time partner or someone new, Christmas creates the perfect backdrop for connection, coziness, and a little spark of magic.

Cozy Nights In

Let’s be real—there’s nothing better than snuggling up with your favorite person by the glow of Christmas lights. A warm blanket, holiday movies, and maybe a little cannabis-infused hot cocoa? That’s the recipe for a night to remember. Sometimes, the best way to connect is to keep it simple. Put on some music, light a few candles, soak in a warm tub and let the holiday vibes set the mood.

Holiday Adventures

If staying in isn’t your style, take your romance outdoors. Go ice skating, check out the local holiday markets, or take a walk to see Christmas lights. Shared experiences create lasting memories and strengthen bonds. Plus, a little playful competition at the ice rink never hurt anyone—except maybe your pride!

Gifting from the Heart

Nothing says “I care” like a thoughtful gift. It doesn’t have to be expensive—sometimes the most meaningful presents are the ones that show you really know the person. Personalized gifts, handwritten letters, or even something you made yourself can add a personal, romantic touch to the holiday season.

Make Time to Unwind

The holidays can get busy, but don’t forget to slow down and enjoy the little moments with your partner. A quiet evening under the stars or a shared joint by the fire can create space to reconnect and appreciate each other. It’s not about the big gestures—it’s the small, intimate moments that build romance.

 Conclusion

Christmas is the season of love, laughter, and cozy moments. Whether you’re building new traditions or embracing old ones, let this holiday be filled with warmth and connection. So, grab your favorite person, pour some hot cocoa, and let the romance of the season lead the way.

And don't forget to take care of yourself!

Here's a wellness tip to help you:

Take time to slow down and be present. The holidays can be busy, but even a few minutes of quiet-whether through meditation, a walk or simply sipping cocoa by the tree-can reduce stress and keep you grounded. Prioritize rest and connection over perfection.

From our little family to yours, we wish you a beautiful, blessed, holiday season filled with tons of happiness, fun and love! 

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...how can it be December already...

"Let all the failures of your past year be your best guide in the New Year." ~ Mehmet Murat ildan

An amazing quote to end the year!

How, how can December be already? It feels as though just yesterday was a hot, sunny July day that I was thoroughly enjoying, lol. Yet, here we are, firmly in the midst of winter and just days away from another Christmas.

We are grateful that weather remains beautiful, with daytime temperatures in the mid-60s. However, I must admit that I'm ashamed for complaining when the drops to 45 degrees night, especially when people in other areas are enduring -20-degree temperatures. I am genuinely attempting refrain from such complaints and to remember how blessed we are!

Do you complain, despite being aware of your blessings? It is unfortunate, but it is natural for everyone to complain at some point and forget how blessed we truly are. From complaining about traffic to the high cost of food and life in between, when we should be grateful for the vehicle we have to be in the traffic, thankful we are able to buy food and blessed to be alive in this crazy, fast paced, fun, sad, confusing world, lol!  

It is important, particularly during this time of year, to reflect on our blessings, our loved ones, and above all, remember the reason for the season: the celebration of Jesus' birthday.

One thing I'm doing is reading the book of Luke. If one begins on December 1st and reads a chapter each day, by Christmas Eve, they will have read and learned the story of Jesus. Unfortunately, I read at a slower pace due to my eye issues; however, I am making progress and very grateful to able to read at all. 

Do you have any special plans for Christmas? Do you have a 'tradition', if so, who and when did they start it? We always observe a very simple Christmas, and this year, we are breaking the 'Christmas dinner' stigma; we will be having a Christmas brunch, similar to what we did for Thanksgiving, which turned out great, lol. 

From our little family to yours, we wish you a beautiful, blessed, holiday season filled with tons of happiness, fun and love! 

On our next blog, we'll be following up on the taboo subject of women, cannabis and orgasms, lol.

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...Happy Thanksgiving, make it a November to remember...

Welcome, and thank you for joining us!

Here's a November quote that I love, a gentle reminder to release past burdens and welcome what lies ahead! ...

"As November leaves fall, they carry away the burden of the past, making way for new beginnings." 

~ Unknown ~

November is a wonderful month to be alive, not only a month of release but a month of Thanksgiving and gratitude! There are countless reasons to feel grateful, especially for the gift of life, the joy of family, and the warmth of friends! 

What do you feel the need to release? Resentments, anger, grief, hate? I, Tam, need to let go of grief. It's something I've been grappling with since my mom passed away over two years ago. I've heard that time heals, but I find myself crying daily, and the pain feels as fresh as if it occurred yesterday. How can one let go of such emotions? Unfortunately, I'm not quite sure but as I explore different methods that may help me process my grief in a healthy, natural manner I will keep you informed!

Thanksgiving is indeed a time for celebration. 

Many indulge in the traditional festivities, feasting on turkey or ham with family and friends, watching football, and often succumbing to the inevitable food coma. However, others, like us, lol, are seeking to break from tradition, finding it somewhat monotonous so we decided to host a Thanksgiving Brunch, lol. We will for sure, let you know how it turns out, lol! 

So, what are your thoughts, do you prefer the traditional festivities or deviate and celebrate with a twist? 

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...October is almost over; do you take time to reflect...

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A favorite October quote of mine:

~"This is October for me:  Withdrawing into my own world, blocking out everything except the beauty of the season, my reflections and my relationship with G-d, I find that this is enough to sustain me through the long, cold, winter and beyond!"~

Peggy Toney Hortone 

As the month draws to a close, many of us enters a period of reflection, questioning whether we've achieved our goals, shown kindness to others, made an impact, or taken time to savor 'moments.'

We all are always busy and hustling through many things. Our minds are cluttered with thoughts and all we think is to get work at hand done, spending very little time to think about where we are, how do we feel and where do we wish to be. That is why monthly

reflection is important. 

I personally believe it's crucial to engage in reflection, and self-inquiry as a means of self-accountability and as the sole path to enhancing my personal growth and fulfilling my life. If I don't take responsibility for myself, who will? Life is what we create for ourselves, not what others create for us! 

Do you take time to reflect?

Doing monthly reflection can offer the following benefits:

Increased self-awareness, developing a better understanding of yourself and others, helps you understand your strengths, weaknesses and more!

Our 520Aftermath YouTube channel will delve more into reflection! 

~Don't forget, Nov. 3rd, time changes!  We 'fall back,' lol, I know, I hate it too, lol!~ 

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